Rejecting Imposter Syndrome: you can't afford to prioritize doubts over dreams
Two of my biggest keys to success over the past 18 months?
Telling myself that I’m good enough.
Sounds simple enough, right? I wish.
I have a knack for getting in my own way. A lot of my biggest challenges are inside my own head. I create short term work-arounds without attacking the root of my self-imposed limitations.
I’ve had to come to terms with this truth as I’ve gotten to know myself more intimately in recent years. I’m 28 years old, and I’ve been dancing around one specific mental roadblock for as long as I can remember. I allowed it to negatively affect all areas of my life.
I’m talking about imposter syndrome - that voice in the back of your head that says “you’re not good enough.” It’s the reason you set goals that were “realistic” instead of pursuing your true desires. It’s the reason you live vicariously through others instead of pursuing the life that you dream of.
Imposter syndrome is an expensive train of thought to hold on to.
Imposter syndrome robs you of peace and deters you from becoming your best self. It forces you to focus on that one piece of negative feedback that you got from someone last week, even though you got five compliments since then. Imposter syndrome tells you to play it safe and stay in your lane. It instructs you to interpret your accomplishments as being due to anything but your own efforts.
According to good ol’ Wikipedia, imposter syndrome “is a psychological pattern in which people doubt their accomplishments and have a persistent, often internalized fear of being exposed as a fraud.”
According to Urban Dictionary, imposter syndrome is “when someone who believes their own accomplishments were simply because of luck, tricking others into thinking they are intelligent, or timing.”
According to my life story, imposter syndrome is the reason I spent years fearing that everything I had built for myself would fall apart. It’s the reason I held on to old habits and systems that no longer served me. It’s the reason I chose comfort over progression, time and time again. It’s the reason I let the fear of being told “no” outweigh the possibility of new doors opening up in my life.
"I only have one life to live, and I refuse to allow self-limiting beliefs to stop me from bringing my vision to fruition."
As difficult as it may be, I’m consciously choosing to push past those limiting, negative thoughts. As uncomfortable as the process may be, I’m actively choosing to prioritize dreams over fears. I know that failure is guaranteed to occur at some point. I know that there are people in this world who are more qualified, more talented, more intelligent than me. I’m sure I’ve gotten opportunities that some would say I don’t deserve.
I’m still here, though. I have opportunities on my plate. The habits that I’ve built and systems that I’ve created have played a huge role in my success. Being humble is important, but I will no longer act as if I haven’t been working for years to engineer my accomplishments. I have a life to live, dreams to pursue, and a plan to manifest. I owe it to myself to see it through.
Let’s be clear. I still doubt myself and question my worth. I still have those voices in the back of my head. I still spend a lot of days wrestling with sentiments such as “I don’t belong,” “I don’t deserve,” and “I’m not good enough.” I just refuse to let those voices chart my course for me. I affirm myself. I surround myself with people who empower and encourage me, as I do for them.
I tell myself, “you’re good enough to exceed your wildest expectations.”
If I allow the negative voices in my head to take control of the narrative, I’ll never be in a mental space to put forward my best effort. Why would I work towards something that I don’t believe in?
If I never put forth my best effort, I’m committing to a life that’s below my potential. I’m not with that. I only have one life to live, and I refuse to allow self-limiting beliefs to stop me from bringing my vision to fruition.
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