I won't help everyone who asks for it. Neither should you.
Our time is valuable, and we can't afford to forget that. Not now, not ever.
I won’t help everyone who asks me for help, and I don’t feel guilty about it. I simply don’t have the capacity for it. Neither do you.
I’m sure there’s another dimension out there where we can easily clone ourselves to answer every message, do every favor, and accommodate every request that comes our way. I'd imagine that this same dimension is devoid of parking enforcement agents and pyramid schemes.
We don’t operate in that dimension. Our time is finite. Our energy is limited.
We all have the same 24 hours in each day. We all have to make the most of the time, energy, and resources that we have. In order to excel within this limited framework, we must have discernment. We have to know when to say “no.” We have to be able to gauge who will respect our time, and who will take advantage of it.
“Saying yes to one thing means saying “no” to everything that you could be doing with that time and energy.”
I love my friends and family to death. I would not be in the position that I'm in today without their help, their love, and their guidance. As someone who's achieved a moderate level of success thus far, I try to pay it forward when I can, even as I'm still working to "make it" on my own terms.
I don't take for granted that I've received some opportunities that many people would kill for.
I also outwork a lot of people. I am constantly thinking about how I can work smarter, but at the end of the day, I accept that in order to achieve the extraordinary goals that I've set for myself, I have to work H A R D.
Before I ask anyone else for help with a road block that I'm struggling to get past, I've already done my best to figure out how I can get past it myself. I've scoured the internet, experimented with my methods, and tried to find examples of how other people have pushed past whatever is holding me back. I believe in due diligence.
I'm thankful that people view me as someone worth asking for advice, but I'm also dedicated to continuing my forward progression. Doing so is a full time job, and then some. Prioritization is a huge element of what's allowed me to get as far along as I am right now. I have to keep that in mind when considering how to respond (or if I'll respond at all) to requests that come into my inbox.
I will never know for sure where it's best to invest my time, but I have to make snap judgements about it every day, all day. I do not believe in holding the hands of a stranger who emails me asking questions that they could google, or that are easily found on the website that I spent hours creating.
If you don't have enough initiative to solve a problem that's an easy fix, should I stop what I'm working on to walk you through that process?
I don't think so.
Not everyone values your time or expertise the way that you do. Not everyone is going to use an empathetic approach when interacting with you. People will test you, to see if you know your worth. You have to prioritize your needs and goals when considering requests other people make of you, or else you’ll find that you’re not in a position to help anyone - not even yourself.
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